Empowering Coaches Step-By-Step

Let the Migration of the Excuse Makers Begin

It is like clockwork at this time of year, I get floods of e-mails from very successful youth coaches telling me about how they are getting bashed by their detractors. It is as regular as Old Faithful, leaves turning in the fall and birds migrating south for the winter. When your competitors are whining about you and your team, it isn’t about you, it is human nature. No one seems to want to admit it when they get out coached or outanythinged these days. Everyone has an excuse, we live in a dog ate the homework, it’s someone elses fault society. Only the best youth football coaches understand the true value of coaching and those guys will readily admit when they have been out coached.

Poem by unknown author:


The Winner is always part of the answer;

The Loser is always part of the problem.

The Winner always has a program;

The Loser always has an excuse.

The Winner says, “Let me do it for you”;

The Loser says, “That is not my job.”

The Winner sees an answer for every problem;

The Loser sees a problem for every answer.

The Winner says, “It may be difficult but it is possible”;

The Loser says, “It may be possible but it is too difficult.”
♦ When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”;

When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”

A Winner makes commitments;

A Loser makes promises.

Winners have dreams;

Losers have schemes.

Winners say, “I must do something”;

Losers say, “Something must be done.”

Winners are a part of the team;

Losers are apart from the team.

Winners see the gain;

Losers see the pain.

Winners see possibilities;

Losers see problems.

Winners believe in win-win;

Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.

Winners see the potential;

Losers see the past.

Winners are like a thermostat;

Losers are like thermometers.

Winners choose what they say;

Losers say what they choose.

Winners use hard arguments but soft words;

Losers use soft arguments but hard words.

Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;

Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.

Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: “Don’t do to others what you would not want them to do to you”;

Losers follow the philosophy, “Do it to others before they do it to you.”

Winners make it happen;

Losers let it happen.

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  1. Shawn Murray

    Nice post Dave. I get quite a bit of complaining from our competitors.

    I’ve heard all the following about us:
    1. “Frog” Offense.
    2. Wildcat offense too complicated for 8-9 year olds
    3. We’re teaching a gimmick offense that doesn’t teach fundamentals.
    4. Plain out cheaters with Wedge.
    5. This isn’t the NFL your hurry up teaches them nothing.

    ALL these comments come from Losers that couldn’t handle your system and most come from frustated coaches and parents of competitors. We’re 9-0 and playing in our league championship next week because of using your system and teaching methods.

  2. davecisar


    Don’t sweat it, lots of guys out there get the same thing. Football is about blocking, tackling and execution. Winning teams are made by making sure you teach proper technique in a way that kids can grasp and remember AND do it in an efficient manner which means no wasted practice time.

    When people fail in America these days, they look for scapegoats and excuses. The BEST coaches in all the leagues I’ve coached in always compliment- never make excuses. Last year every player I had that was eligible to play High School football, went on to play and many of them are doing extremely well. When kids are having fun, not wasting time, getting encouraged, learning great technique that they can execute AND have some team AND maybe a little personal success, they develop a love and appreciation for the game and KEEP ON PLAYING!


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